Dreams

While I was in Charlottesville last weekend, I had a couple of strange dreams. In the first one, I had taken up a second job as a bartender at a strip club. Apparently I had a girlfriend working there. And during the slow times, I would get out and dance on the pole some. After awhile, the club decided to have a role-reversal day – the male employees would be the strippers and the girls would be the bouncers, managers, bartenders. But as the time came, a bunch of the guys bailed and I woke up so I can’t complete the story.

In the second dream the following night, someone had recommended a car repair shop that was attached to a restaurant that was overlooking a river.  So I took my Solara there and it was really sketchy. I had to park on a shaky pier and they had to tie down the car to make sure it didn’t go rolling into the river. For some strange reason, I went along with this. Sure enough, while I’m in the restaurant, I see the car start to roll away so I run out of the restaurant to try to save the car but it drowns. However, I go buy a Prius on the spot and drive home happy.

Maybe I should buy a Prius and work at a strip club?

Business Cards

How do you feel about business cards? Would you rather someone hand you a business card with all of the person's contact info or just add the person's number in your phone on the spot? Is it different for guys and girls? I mean, is it appropriate for a guy to give a girl he is interested in his business card and say "call or text me when you're free so we can hang out" or is it still better to straight up ask for her phone number or to straight up ask her on a date (and then exchange phone numbers)? Or have we progressed even farther that the in thing to do is just add the girl on facebook and send her a facebook message the next day?

I think we all would rather the burden be on someone else to make the first move and it's not fair that in the traditional sense, guys have to make all the first moves and women have veto power. Giving out your business card has a sense of professionalism and class that might not otherwise get conveyed. Plus, it puts the ball in the girl's court. You made the first move and showed your interest, let her make the second and call you.

People hate being rejected, so this system of giving your number and asking them to call you later kind of masks the rejection. If she's interested, she'll call (one would think) and if she's not interested, she won't but you haven't totally be rejected because you never actually asked her out.

In this modern world, more and more communication is done through email and the number of couples that met through online dating is getting a bit ridiculous. But apparently some people still are not as attached to their phones and the internet and facebook as I am. That is hard for me to understand. What do people do at home without internet? However, everyone does have a phone. Nothing beats face to face interaction and asking someone out face to face. Calling on the phone is next best but do girls really still care about how they are asked out any more or would a facebook message saying "dinner tomorrow night at 7?" be adequate for asking you out for the first time?