Let’s go back a few years and talk about strawberry chicken girl who I met on
eHarmony. We started chatting in March 2009, and agreed to first meet at a
Mercer baseball game sometime in late March. She flaked out and gave a list of
things she was stressing about, but at least she let me know rather than just
not showing up. Her immaturity was showing. Although I was only 3 years older
at the time, I was far more mature. She was 21 and clearly an emotional wreck. Next
time we did Outback Steakhouse and a movie on a Thursday and she showed up on
time, freaking out about something. I paid for dinner and she paid for the
movie, through which she texted almost nonstop. After the movie she complained
that I didn’t say thanks for paying for the movie. She didn’t say thanks for
buying dinner so we were kind of even, but not really because dinner was
probably like $5 more but not important. We went to church and lunch together
the following Sunday – nothing eventful.
I asked her out for the following weekend and she said only
if I get her a strawberry chicken pie. Kind of a strange request but we’ve
established this girl was kind of crazy. So what do I do? Invite her over and
bake a pie with strawberries and chicken. Duh. As I recall, it wasn’t very tasty to me but
she was really impressed. I never figured out if she seriously wanted that or
was just kidding around or testing me to see if I’d actually do follow her
request, but she got what she asked for.
After that date, which I thought went pretty darn well, she
changed her facebook status to in a relationship… not with me. I should have
dropped her at that point, but instead I asked her about it and she wrote back
“I just need space and time away from you. You have hurt me over the past few
days. I forgive you for upsetting me. however I just need space.” I gave her
space and a couple days later, she seemed more sane and apologized: “I’m sorry
how things have gone down, I had a huge test I was studying for. I sent some
hurtful messages because I was emotional and stressed at that time. I know that
you are a sweet guy who has feelings and I just ruined them for you. I hope you
will accept my apology.”
I, of course, quickly forgave and moved to try to figure out
when we would go out again. I’m often too quick to forgive someone for hurting
me emotionally and often keep people in my life longer than I should. We went
out one more time – to Starbucks where I helped her study for a linear algebra
final.
The next week strawberry chicken girl had some guy call me and tell me to quit
talking to her because I was supposedly so mean to her. She didn’t delete or
block me from facebook, but I let this marinate for a couple of days before
calling her up to try to figure out what the heck was going on. Was she seeing
two guys and this other one stole my number because he wanted me gone or was
she really sending him to end things with me or was she just a crazy person who
doesn’t know what to do at all?
She responds via facebook message: “…I am sorry if I have done
anything to you. I just want the best for you and to be completely honest I
have no idea about you. I am a lost human and don’t know what I want with life.
Saturday was fun and I’m glad I got to meet you… I am not going to be coming
back to Macon next year and I just need to be closer to home in VA so I will
only be in GA another week.”
For a lost girl who only saw me 4 times, that was a pretty
nice way for her to end things. About two months later, strawberry chicken girl
and I chatted on facebook a few times, and it was okay until we got into a
discussion about politics. My very liberal and socialist views came out, and
she would have none of it – deleted me from fb in an instant. Not so sane after
all.
